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What is a Parrot Lifestyle?

What is a Parrot Lifestyle?

Did you ever notice that living life is rather defensive? We tend to defend our positions. We defend our money. We wake up in the morning and go to work to defend our position in that company through performance which requires defending our position and work while we are in a meeting defending against the competitor. We shop defensively with coupons. We choose friends and amicable relationships defensively. It's kind of a human thing, this defensive living. 

“She was not quite what you would call refined. She was not quite what you would call unrefined. She was the kind of person that keeps a parrot.” That quote is from Mark Twain's "Following the Equator" or "More Tramps Abroad" depending on the publisher. It's his non-fiction travelogue from 1897. (In case you are a bibliophile like me) You can't write something that intuitively without meeting a few parrot people.

You can't live defensively with parrots. You can't live offensively either. Much like Twain said, and unlike life as a human, you can only live with and keep a relationship with a parrot kindly. To do that you won't be refined or unrefined, you will be "the kind of person that keeps a parrot".  If you have a parrot and non-parrot friends, you know what that means.

The reason why most companion parrot relationships fail, and the parrot finds themselves ignored or worse, is that the human was either too refined, or not refined enough. There's a sweet spot in the human psyche that makes "keeping a parrot" possible for both human and parrot. It's not easy. In fact, it is VERY difficult on the whole. Talk to any parrot rescue operator or director to get a general head count of failures.

How do you live an unrefined refined parrot lifestyle?

  • You have to stop believing the hype that is the human side of life.
  • You can be in charge or the one who loves a parrot and stays in charge while that parrot dictates to you.
  • You can have a perfectly decorated, lovely home that is always ready for a photo session for HGTV, or you can have parrots.
  • You can be refined. You can be unrefined. Or you can keep a parrot.

Parrots are not refined, nor are they unrefined. are the kind that keeps a human. Parrots have become companions because of their very nature. We in turn, by our very nature have a hard time accepting them in their raw state. They require an honest, empathetic approach. A parrot person needs to live in the middle of unselfish and selfish to do well. Ironically, if you have a balanced loving relationship with a human, you're most likely doing all that anyway. Even better, if you have a great relationship with a child or children, you are definitely doing all that anyway.

Such is the price of the refined unrefined parrot person. 

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