How to Create a Great Parrot Lifestyle - Nothing Less Than Our Sincerity. A  young sincere boy being visited by his aunt's sincere female cockatiel. Stella, the cockatiel, perches relaxed on his shoulder. She knows he is sincere.

Part 3 - How to Create a Great Parrot Lifestyle - Nothing Less Than Our Sincerity

Part 3 - How to Create a Great Parrot Lifestyle - Nothing Less Than Our Sincerity

I keep three books on my desk at all times: The Art of War, the Zen Doctrine of No-Mind, and The Art of Happiness at Work. I have all three for one reason. Sincerity. These books remind me to be sincere in planning, living, and working. Sincerity is a key to living a happy life. It is mandatory to live a great life with parrots.

Parrots are sincere. Humans are, mostly, not sincere. A parrot can never learn to be insincere, while a human learns how to be insincere early in life. Insincerity is part of the rationalization skills used to negotiate life in social settings, or alone with our own thoughts. We learn how to answer a question enough to stay out of trouble, but not honest enough to show our true nature or selves. In a small way, we use insincerity to protect ourselves from appearing or feeling vulnerable. Sincerity is not the act of being truthful, it is an act of honesty.

How to Create a Great Parrot Lifestyle - Nothing Less Than Our Sincerity.


You can be truthful and not honest. I can ask you what the sky looks like. You can state the sky is blue. That is a truth. But to be honest, you would add that you also see deep gray clouds building in an approaching storm. Insincerity has been so fine-tuned it’s rarely called insincere.

Why wouldn’t we want to be sincere? Why wouldn’t we want to be sincerely, honestly happy? It’s a simple process that gets complicated when you allow the chatter of the world to lie to you. Deep thoughts. But deep thoughts make big strides.

A parrot will sincerely want to chew a couch. We react with an insincere question, “Why are you chewing the couch?” Expecting our bird to explain chewing our couch. There is no why with parrots, not human why’s anyway. They are not misbehaving. They are not being a bad parrot. They are not being insincere about this attempt. They honestly want to chomp on our woodwork.

Our parrots are chewing on items in their environment because they can, and because they must, and because that is what parrots do. They chew on all things interesting in their environments. And they are sincere about doing it. Our attempt at putting a human wrapper on a parrot piece of logic will lead to miscommunication and unreasonable expectations. Insincerity creates unreasonable expectations. All parrots chew on furniture, woodwork, and human inappropriate household goods, at least once. Maybe twice if the first time was satisfying. Most likely a third time if you didn’t give them a good reason not to try that third time. And that is the truth.

The sincerely honest reaction to a parrot chewing on a couch is requesting a step up with an explicit instruction. Be good. Not stop that, no chewing, or the like. I suggest stating the result we want from the situation. We want them to be good inside the human context. A positively worded instruction leaves a clear, differentiated phrase. Speak matter-of-factly. Why? Parrots sincerely love drama. Yelling instructions in frustration to a parrot is pouring gasoline on a fire. As far as your bird is concerned, you are inviting them to a screaming festival. If chewing on a couch gets them in the gate of a screaming festival, they are going to chew on that couch.

Place your sincere parrot on a location that offers pre-approved options. Their cage top with a chew or foraging toy waiting for them there. Let them know you are pleased, and here is where you both can share a moment that your bird wanted, anyway. Be good takes on a meaning of time with you.

Human rationalization and debate mucks up the works. For them, and us. Our parrots do not want to challenge us or test us, or provocatively push our buttons. That is a human wrapper of insincerity. Our companions want what they want because they can. If you could fly, you would know that already. We invited a being that communicates, calculates, then motivates themselves without rationalizing ideas. You will peel your parrot off your window blinds many times a day if you don’t sincerely accept this truth. They aren’t wrong for wanting to hang off the window blinds.

It is difficult to be a sincere human in this world. But we can make this a new character trait not only for our own personal success but for a sincere result in the relationships with our parrots and family members.

Insincerity is a weed. We aren’t born insincere. We are all born blunt as butter knives, honest. Ask a 3-year-old if the outfit you are wearing makes you look fat, you’ll get the blunt side of that knife every time.

We learn to hide truths through seeds of experiences. We learn to fabricate ideas, reasons, and methods by watching others grow their own insincere weeds. Over time, we forget the simplest of things. Being happy is very difficult when we are busy wanting more stuff, comparing our lives to others, realizing our teeth aren’t as white as they could be, and spending time insincerely building reasons we are not measuring up to an imaginary but present insincere ruler. If you access advertising, you are mainlining insincerity. Period. I know, I worked in advertising. I didn’t create one sincere sentence the entire time. If you access provocative television programming, you are mainlining insincerity. If you choose to spend your time looking over the fence at the grass on the other side, you are growing insincere weeds on your side. To live sincerely is to live aware of truths. Our companion parrots simply want to be, and they simply want to be with us. We can muck that up pretty easily with complicated insincere attempts at being like, acting like, or buying like the next parrot flock.

Forget behavior modification for your parrots and consider that for yourself first. I do. The best part of creating a great parrot life is the side effects. Maybe we can all become kinder to each other. Maybe we can all realize the validity of all life. Maybe we can forget our whitening toothpaste for a few minutes and think about helping our neighbor. That’s where parrot success leads us. It leads us to sincere living.

Find yourself in the middle of this series? Sometimes you have to go backwards, to move forwards. Part 1 - How to Create a Great Parrot Lifestyle - And Create a Great Life

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  • Thank you so much for this write up.
    I am from India with a grey parrot

    Raji on

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