The Power of Patience and Understanding
The air conditioning guy. All was peaceable in our parrot kingdom until his arrival. Since the KaKAW Incident, I've played this out a thousand times in my head. I'm more bothered by my lack of patience and kneejerk fullback reaction than anything. I'm the Companion Parrot Advocate (trademark) in the room. It's up to me to clarify, edify, and share the glories of having a parrot. Yet, one guy with a clipboard and no parrot understanding, has me sharing the glories of a protective mama bear, baring teeth and growling.
Was his loud confrontational "KaKAW!" innocent? Did he mean to scare Butters with his clipboard and ridiculous voicing? Was this man so without understanding and etiquette that to him barking at others' dogs, meowing at their cats, or hissing at lizards not familiar is just another day in his installation week? Could it be that this guy was raised to believe other's companions are just waiting to provide him some personal amusement during his work week? From all indicators in my house the answer is, yes. Which leaves me with the question, what does one do in that situation?
Thankfully I have readers, who were kind enough to take the time to share thoughts. The day I posted the incident asking that question I received dozens of stories of others' experiences. I appreciated these. I found an interesting dynamic that never revealed itself in other parrot associated conversations.
The gender dynamic. Men sided with the installation guy. Offering a Mea Culpa for him as well as the suggestion I could have taken the time to explain the matter to him before services were rendered. Women sided with me and my brute force verbiage. Offering their own versions of what their verbiage would have contained. I am impressed. And unnerved.
I learned two things; Men leave no men behind. Ladies, I now know I was nowhere near as angry as I thought! I am humbled by your fighting words and scenes! And unnerved.
Will I be installing more patience for my fellow man (woman)? Yes, I will for my fellow man, because from the reading I've done, men need it more. And ladies, from the reading I've done I will definitely install more patience as some of you scared me like a clipboard scares a macaw.
You don't bark at someone's dog you just met, you don't hiss and meow at their cat, and you do not poke their tarantula. And you sure don't yell "KaKAW!" at a macaw that doesn't know you. A macaw knows that's what crows say, not macaws. You're just making a fool out of yourself, really.