The Why in the Parrot Companionship
The most important action a writer can take is reading. You can't write well if you aren't well read. It is that simple. So, I read, a lot. I read all genres. I've read all the general parrot care and behavior books out there, and somewhere between "parrots for dummies" and "well trained parrot" type books I sat down and realized they all missed the point. They missed the forest for the trees and took their readers down a cul-de-sac barren of growth. I kept reading though, looking for fresh greenery. And even though there were a few I wanted to pitch out the window, set on fire, or give to Felix for shredding; I finished them.
You can't have a "well trained parrot", "a well-behaved parrot", a "calm parrot", an "entertaining parrot", a "well managed parrot", or an "obedient parrot" without a purposeful approach first. Valuing the parrot's perspective in equal sum to the human's perspective is the approach. If a companion parrot rests inside a flock equally with certainty, empathy, patience, respect, a bit of sacrifice, and humility all that other book title business falls in place naturally.
Having a companion parrot in your life is not keeping a pet, a houseplant, or a goldfish. You are choosing a companion relationship lifestyle. And you are bringing in a bird capable of building that emotional structure and who will REQUIRE you to keep your end of the bargain for success. There's no approaching this like baking a cake or building a table. There are no steps A, B, C. There is no tab A for slot B. Building a successful companion parrot lifestyle is equivalent to raising a child. You will be winging it sometimes. You will have no idea what you are doing at moments. You will be lost for answers. You will have 10 books in the house and none of them address the current goings on. You will scour online for answers, and they won't be there, because every single parrot and every flock they share a life with is different. I cannot state that enough.
Building a purposeful approach through equal perspective value is the key to real success.
The kind of companion success that doesn't need another book, or a new recipe or new cages or a constant need for fine tuning. This success will require a bit of independent thought, a bit of confidence in self, and humility all at the same time.
Three items that, when out of balance, cause the communication problems we find ourselves in with our parrots and with other people. Balance. I cannot state that enough.
Humans tend to compensate for the imbalance with materialism, gossip, anger, drinking, overeating or isolation. When we as humans with a companion are out of balance, we can be short tempered, offended, impatient, and then put the parrot in isolation, clip their wings or mishandle them physically. I'm being blunt here. We've all had very bad days and very good days. It's easier to approach this with honest reflection than throwing a blanket over the cage of honest reality. Balance is the key to success in life and in the companion parrot lifestyle. Balance gives us calm which leads to more balance.
It's impossible to feel independent, certain and confident in choices if we haven't first built a real humble, equal value perspective relationship with our parrots (and the humans in our flock as well).